This is probably a pretty common story for this site, but not for us. I'll try to be as specific as I can, but most of this is about my wife's experience (s), and she just doesn't want to talk about it or relate to this site. Not because she doesn't believe in the spirit world, she just believes that the spirits get stronger the more you talk about them. Me, I understand that there are spirits/ghosts, I just don't get it, how can they be in our home? We are the second owners of this home. As far as we know, nobody has died here. We didn't invite them in, and according to my wife, they are not relatives.
We are both in our fifties and have been married for 40 years. We love each other very much and we communicate well how we feel and what's going on in our lives. We have three grown boys, the oldest just turned forty. They struggle with staying employed/ making an income. Other than that, they are good kids.
My wife, I'll call her Erin, tells me that she's seen two spirits, both male and young. Erin is one that sees spirits, I don't. I can kind of feel them, but I don't see as she does. She tells me one is a fairly good looking white male in his maybe early thirty's or late twenty's with light colored hair. The other is a dark haired male, kind of gruff and a little older. They seem to bother her at night and only when we are in bed. By bother, I mean touching/poking her, or playing with her hair, or blowing in her ear. This is what she tells me. Erin really doesn't like to talk about her experiences, especially in our home, she thinks they get stronger when we talk about them. Stronger as in more open, more apt to do stuff.
It took a lot for Erin to open up to me and tell me what was going on. I mean she would say, "Ben, I need to talk, but not here." And when we were out of the house or on a drive, she would tell me of the things that were happening. Like I said, touching, messing with her hair, blowing in her ear. Just enough to let her know that someone was there.
So, lately I've had my own experiences. Once again, in bed, just going to sleep. I feel someone poke me in the ribs, not hard, but a tickle, always a tickle with me. A poke in the side, and always the down side, next to the mattress. Just when I'm dosing off and in a dream world, not quite fully asleep, but not awake either. It's happened a few times and when it happens, I wake up. It dawns on me that this is real, and I say aloud STOP IT!, and it does, but what the heck is going on?
Erin tells me it only happens to her in bed, and me too.
Yes, I know it's a dull story, but Erin is really upset that this is happening and she is concerned that these spirits could get stronger and more bothersome. Me? It doesn't bother me as much, but when they bother my wife, it bothers me too. I've grown up around stuff like this. Big deal. But Erin is getting worried and that is what bothers me. I want to know how to communicate with these spirits, to maybe find out who this is, and tell them to leave her alone, because it bothers her a lot.
I can relate more if there is someone interested in helping. How can I find out who this s or what they want, or why they're here? This seems to be at an early stage of haunting and we don't want it to progress into something bigger.
If there is someone that can help, please advise, thanks.