Just reading some of your experiences suddenly made something click for me. I am a 30 year old man, originally from Oxford and now living Jersey, Channel Islands.
This goes back approximately 20 years ago therefore it is rather difficult to remember all of the details, but I had 2 cats as a youngster and around the age of 10 or so, one of them became extremely ill and had to be put down.
Naturally, as I've always been a cat person I was devastated and really struggled to come to grips with the situation.
I believe it was that night that whilst asleep my cat appeared in my dream to assure me that he was ok, what happened in the dream was that my brother and I were on our way downstairs in the early morning and sat right on the rug in front of the fire place was our cat (in front of the fireplace was his favourite place to sit).
We both bolted over to crouch down beside him and stupidly (I mean it was a dream) I asked him if he was ok to which I received a nod and smile from him. That is all I can really remember from the dream itself.
It sounds nuts and at the time I honestly just thought it was where I was so upset that he was gone, but after having read so many different accounts on here, that maybe this was his way of letting me know that all was ok and not to be upset.
Appreciate this could all be coincidence as I was really upset with his passing, but any thoughts or comments will be received with lots of appreciation.
Thanks for taking the time out to read this.