Dream Or Reality

Hi Dee,

Many thanks for your condolences. You are right, in our quest to look for the bigger signs we dismiss the smaller gestures as coincidences. I will try not to overlook the simpler things now.

Thanks
Nazz 😊

Lookingforamiracle,

My condolences on the loss of your brother. Something to keep in mind; while we hope for a 'big, in your face, blatant' sign, many times we end up missing the small, subtle ones. I'm sure your brother has attempted to give you a sign that he is with you, however in our busy lives we tend to miss them or dismiss them. If you notice something that makes you think of your brother, don't second guess it.

Also, dreams are a great way for our loved ones to visit us. Don't dismiss those dreams... They may be your brother's way of reaching out, reminding you of wonderful memories. ❤

All the best,
Dee

Hi AugustaM,

Many thanks for your reply.
To be honest, I started reading the posts of others here more after losing my brother to kidney failure in 2015. It is a loss nothing can fulfill, no amount of soothing words or prayers of the loved ones can fill the void his death made in all of our lives. And I am still looking for a sign from him to know that he is okay wherever he is, I have dreamt about him many times and it was always about the happy crazy fun times we shared together but I am still hoping for something real. I can understand how hard it must be for your mother.

Seems to me like Dee is right. The death of someone close to us inevitably brings home the concept of death and finality. No matter how well adjusted and/or solid in their faith a person may be, I feel at heart, there is still a wee kernel of primal fear of the unknown within us. After all, only ones who have died can truly know what comes after.

Experiencing the death of a loved one throws one's emotions out of whack allowing that nefarious little kernel to glow. And I think that is what informed the imagery of your disturbing dream. I firmly believe you were visited by anxiety and grief rather than the spirit of your grandmother that night.

If it makes you feel any better - my mother has had a similar experience. After losing her parents within four months of each other to a prolonged and torturous battle with cancer - she was devastated. Soon thereafter, she had a dream wherein they were all sitting round the old breakfast table in her parent's small but sunny kitchen. Everyone was drinking coffee and chatting as they had done on so many hundreds of thousands of simple happy occasions in the past. She told me how profoundly happy she felt to be there like that again with the two of them once again not only alive but well, strong, happy and healthy. Then suddenly everything changed - she looked into her parents faces and in moments watched the years of sickness wither and distort their faces. She started to scream as they then began to decay in front of her eyes. Her mother reached out to her to calm her and she lost it. She snapped awake still screaming in a cold sweat. It took her years to understand and to realize that was NOT her parents. It was a vicious visual manifestation of grief and anxiety.

In time, balance returns and that kernel will be covered up and quieted again - some people do this on their own, some need the support and love of others, some need to channel their access emotion in specific ways - it is merely important to find your way and it seems as though you have. ❤

Hi Dee,

Many thanks for your comment. I really hope it wasn't paranormal specially not something involving my grandmother because I really have some very good memories with her.
And now that you have mentioned it, it sounds right, though I have some other experiences of sleep paralysis and I just wanted to make sure this wasn't one of those.
Will definitely share my other experiences here soon.

Thanks
Lookingforamiracle 😊

Hi there Looking,

What may have happened is you were sort of 'acting out' your dream while sleeping. If you held your arm outstretched for awhile, it would feel achy upon waking. This was my first thought after reading your account. It sounds similar to sleepwalking or talking in your sleep, just a milder version.

Hope this helps 😊
Dee