My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year, and we decided to move in together back in March. Things were fine at first, we get along well and have a good relationship. It was around mid April, maybe the 13th would be my best estimation, that my boyfriend (I'll call him H from now on) saw a ghost or shadow person. I'm not a believer at all, but I'm trying to meet him halfway and try to understand what's going on, or what he believes is going on. I'll start by giving you his account as he's described it to me.
H woke up at around 7am on the morning in question, because he heard the door to our bedroom creaking. He didn't see anything at first, so he rolled back over to return to sleep. Then he heard the door creaking again, and this time he sat bolt upright. He saw a dark humanoid shape with no features in our doorway, it appeared to be smoky in consistency. He yelled and jumped up, at which point the figure darted out of our doorway. H chased it out into the main room (we have a one bedroom apartment) but found nothing. Our front door was locked, so were all the windows, and he was confused and freaked out. By this point I was awake too, but I'll get into my side of this story in a moment.
H has seen this shadow person several times in the last month and a half. The next time was during the day, and I was out. H saw the same smoky humanoid figure in the bathroom mirror while he was shaving. Then about two weeks ago he saw the same entity through our window from the outside. Again, when H got in the door was locked and I was not home. Since then he's felt a dark presence watching him whenever he's alone. He also says he hears strange knockings against our bedroom walls and scraping sounds at night.
H thinks that this activity is tied to my interest in horror movies, and certain music. I do in fact have quite a collection of signed posters and memorabilia pertaining to these interests. H thinks that if I get rid of all my memorabilia that involves horror movies or rock/metal, that the activity he is experiencing will stop.
Now, here's my side of the story. I know that H jumped out of bed that first morning and chased after something that he genuinely believes was there. I heard and saw exactly nothing, but I listened to him. We had a very honest conversation about whether he was really ready to move in together. I told him he could keep his place and we could still be together, I made sure he knew that our relationship doesn't hinge on living together. He swears that isn't a factor, and I have no reason to think he's lying. He knew about my interests long before he moved in, and he used to sleep over pretty regularly, and my posters and collectables never bothered him then. Or maybe they did and he didn't realize how much? I don't know, but H always actively supported my interests before he moved in.
I believe that it is genuinely disturbing to him now, but I don't want to give up my records and posters and favorite movies. I've made room for his decorations etc. I'm not trying to be a jerky know-it-all, but H has some severe anxiety issues. He takes meds for this, and they mostly seem to work for him. I tend to think this dark presence watching H could be a product of anxiety though. He's starting online college and a new part time job next week, and he's told me that it's very stressful for him.
As for the noises at night, we have a bird and five Guinea pigs in the main room, and our neighbors have kids; I hear them pretty frequently through the walls. As for the shadow figure, I have never seen anything like that and I've lived in this apartment alone for a year before H moved in. Maybe I'm not sensitive to these things, but I've never seen or heard anything here that I couldn't explain or that frightened me. Whatever H is experiencing, I don't think it has any connection to the stuff I'm into. I don't want to discount what he's telling me though; I just want to figure out what's going on and I have no idea how to approach this. Any insight or advice that anyone could provide me would be most welcome and appreciated. I've been researching various paranormal sites, and the people here seem pretty knowledgeable and willing to help.