In the comments of my last occurrence I said that I am thick-headed sometimes (all of the time) and needed a sledgehammer dropped on my head instead of subtle clues to get the gist of messages. This was in response to my father appearing to me last month, I was trying to figure out why after all these years he would; I found out.
After my father passed away, my mother moved in with my older sister. This past October of 2007, my mother's health took a drastic turn for the worst. She was diagnosed with lymphoma and fought a loosing battle that lasted until this past Tuesday, 9/15/08. I now believe that my father came to let me know he was here to take her from her pain.
My parents were married for 51 years and until the day she lapsed into a coma, my mother said it wasn't enough time. While I'm sad that she is gone, I am glad my father came for her and I know that they are together again and happy.
My sister's youngest daughter's birthday is the day my mother passed. She was so upset she kept saying, "She is not supposed to die, it's my birthday." The only thing that comforted her was when my sister told her that we could celebrate her birthday and the fact that Grandaddy and Grandmamma were together again and happy. My youngest, 4 years old, keeps asking if Grandmamma is going to be dead forever and ever, and my oldest, 14 years old, is still devastated by her passing. I sort of wish my father could have prepared them, though it might have scared them to see Grandaddy.
While I'm glad to have seen my father again, I still wish I was sensitive enough to have asked him all of the questions that I have. My father was a very good person who loved us all. He had to work two or three jobs, full and part time, just to support us, so I never really had the opportunity to get to know my father. He was career military and retired shortly after my mother had my middle sister. That's when he had to work all those hours to provide for all three kids and my mother. I just wish I could find out more about him and his time in the military so I could have something to tell my kids, especially the youngest two.
Thank you to all who posted comments, I cannot begin to tell you all how grateful I am and how much you all helped me. God bless all.