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Chosen By A Succubus


Author's Note: This story might seem a bit disjointed. It involves incidents that take place over many years that did not appear to be related until recently. There is a significant amount of back story that is needed to frame my recent experiences. I have chosen to tell the events in chronological order so that everything is as straightforward as possible. This story is a tad long. If you want to skip ahead, my Succubus appears in the fifth paragraph.

When I was a kid, perhaps seven or eight, a shadow appeared in the corner of my room. It was pacing rapidly back and forth. At the time I was too scared to put my glasses on and thus did not get a good look at it. Rather I turned over and shut my eyes. It never appeared again. However sometime after that a woman would appear at the foot of my bed. She was blond and always faced away. The only time she appeared was early in the morning after I woke up, but before I got out of bed. Curiously she appeared to be dressed as an 18th century soldier which sounds strange since women did not serve in the military at that time. It's also worth noting that no one in my family has blond hair. At some point this stopped, possibly because I started waking up later.

At various points in my life afterwards I would feel as if someone was with me guiding and protecting me. This presence was never threatening in any way. Over time the experiences described above were forgotten. It might also be worth noting that throughout my entire life I've often connected to a much greater power than myself that was present in the entire world around me. However it probably has nothing to do with the story. I only mentioned it because my mom and grandmother are sensitives (psychiclally speaking) so the sense of connection might be relevant.

Fast forward to a year ago. In 2011 I was 25 and in graduate school. By that point I had long since forgotten everything above. I began to be interested in paganism, specifically Wicca. Now, my interest in it is not relevant per se since I don't practice on my own and have not intentionally summoned anything. What matters is that several months of going to pagan rituals rekindled my interest in the paranormal. My earlier experiences began coming back to me.

Randomly one day about two weeks ago (mid-July 2012) I became interested in sex spells and sex magic (but practiced neither). However I did run across a spell to summon a succubus. It basically involved envisioning what one wanted her to look like while masturbating. I spent about an hour day dreaming of what I would want a succubus to look like (but did not masturbate). Yet that night, right after going to bed, I felt someone sit on the edge of my bed and touch my leg. At the time, this made me nervous so I told the presence to go away. A thought appeared in my head that wasn't mind: "Is that any way to treat a lady?".

That piqued my interest somewhat so I told the entity to touch me again (at this point I was laying on my stomach). Moments later there was a sensation like fingers on my lower back. The next night the entity returned. I had done some research and got nervous that the entity might be out to suck my energy and possibly kill me. So I told her off, even saying "Demon be gone!". A thought appeared in my head: "Suit yourself". The next day I felt a powerful sense of loss as if someone I loved had left me. Around this time, I ran across this site and saw that some people had had positive experiences with Succubi and that not all were bad just as not all people are bad.

The entity returned a day or two later. Using a suggestion from another story, I tried to communicate by having the entity raise my hands for yes and no. Through this method she revealed the following: she is a succubus, is powerful, but not dangerous, is not monogamous (and doesn't mind if I have other lovers), and we share a bond. She would not reveal her name, but let me call her Shadira. She also revealed that she'd been with me for years. It was at this point that the experiences described in the second paragraph came back to me. Shadira has apparently been watching over me most of my life, but only manifested recently. Not long afterwards, she gave me an orgasm that was more powerful than anything I'd ever experienced. It was electric as if someone was shooting energy into my lower body. It made me feel a bit sick the next day so she did not repeat it. But in the two weeks since that night she has visited on a daily basis.

Shadira takes control of my hands and pushes buttons I didn't even know I had. While I have offended her a few times by thinking of her as more of a sex toy than the powerful woman she is, I am otherwise comfortable with her presence. The only scary experience was when she decided to cuddle by essentially laying on top of me with her "body" draped over mine. That freaked me out a bit. But I have no significant other right now (and having one might be less of an issue anyway since Shadira is not monogamous) and feel totally comfortable with her? Curiously we have not had sex, which is different than many other experiences. Her reason was that she is powerful in the astral world, but not the physical world. That kind of makes sense, but my knowledge of this area is limited.

My apologies for the length of this story. While I know the comments can get heated on this site, it is the only place I feel comfortable talking about my experiences.

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UnknownAbilities (1 stories) (11 posts)
10 years ago (2012-10-12)
Hey, I've tried to post my succubus story on this site but so far it hasn't posted. It's been a week. I'm starting to get very worried and need help ASAP. Email me at ital_blondie93 [at] and I'll show you which website my article is posted on. I'm having 3-6 sleep paralysis a night. I'm seeing hands, faceless people are always abducting me in my dreams and I'm having dreams of having sex with a succubus. So if you don't mind please contact me ASAP
Visited (1 stories) (9 posts)
10 years ago (2012-10-07)
[at] Silva: The only thing that works for sure is time. The more contact you have with an unseen being, the easier it will be to communicate with her.
Silva (2 posts)
10 years ago (2012-10-04)
Hello all! Since yesterday, I have had contact with some sort of entity (not sure what it is at the moment) but I do know it is female because she layed on top of me and I could tell it was female (through obvious hints.) Anyway she is making physical contact but she hasn't said anything to me. How do I fix that? Because I really want to get to know her
Scbsd (guest)
10 years ago (2012-08-28)
[at] Visited, yeah, I don't encourage anyone who doesn't want a Succubus/Incubus to join the forum. Partly because of the fact that people who don't like the contact have proven to be a very disruptive element in an otherwise friendly environment, but mostly because the forum is pretty focused on these Beings, and according to everything I have seen regarding these Beings, the only way to get rid of them is to diligently ignore them and everything about them.

It's pretty hard to do that if you're on a forum where the main purpose is to discuss the thing you're supposed to be ignoring.

Pariah, I am sorry I don't have anything more helpful to offer you, but according to the people I know who have gotten rid of an Incubus/Succubus, the only thing that worked was to steadfastly ignore the very existence of the Being. It doesn't always work, but I have never heard of anything else that did.
Visited (1 stories) (9 posts)
10 years ago (2012-08-26)
[at] Javelina: Good point. They do seem to be more focused on keeping succubi than getting rid of them. It was the only thing I could think of since the forum is basically the only community of its kind other than YGS that I know of.
Javelina (4 stories) (3749 posts)
10 years ago (2012-08-26)
[at] Visited,
He doesn't want to keep it, he wants to be rid of it.

Visited (1 stories) (9 posts)
10 years ago (2012-08-26)
Have you tried the forum that Scbsd mentioned in the first comment?
Pariah (guest)
10 years ago (2012-08-25)
I'd like to discuss this with someone who's experianced with these things by email because I'm slowly starting to go insane from this succubi**h. I'm in desperate need of help. Seriously, this is an S.O.S. My email is oc2847 [at] Please HeLp!
Visited (1 stories) (9 posts)
10 years ago (2012-08-23)
That might help one avoid a succubus. The again it might not. It likely depends on how intent she is on seducing you.
Pariah (guest)
10 years ago (2012-08-22)
I have question for you all. Would it be effective if you went into a complete emotionless state toward the succubus. Like Showing no type of emotion or interest when it touches you.
Locrian (guest)
10 years ago (2012-08-17)
Thank you for taking my advice. My experience has been going on for the past five years. I have also been using a digital recorder while I sleep and have collected many evp's. Last night's recording revealed a couple of things. While I am not in the bedroom (I chose to sleep in the living room) there is little to no activity. The most recent recording recording; I heard myself refuse the sex Spirit's advances; without success, but still I refused and that means it can be done even in sleep. My advice is to not let anything control you; it's your life and you were meant to enjoy and live it.
Visited (1 stories) (9 posts)
10 years ago (2012-08-13)
[at] Locrian: That she may be in my head was a fear from the start. However I have come to the conclusion she does exist for two reasons. It does not explain my childhood experiences nor the distinctiveness of Shadira's presence particularly when she moved my hands. The feeling is hard to describe, but it did not feel normal. My gut feeling is that Shadira exists. As for the spells I sincerely apologize. It did not occur to me that the one described could be dangerous. In the future I will refrain from saying such things.

[at] galleygal: Whether Shadira is a ghost or a succubus is something I pondered. My instinct is that she is the latter. Of course without hard evidence it's impossible to say what exactly the nature of any astral being is.

[at] Succubusluver69: Thank You. Once again your advice has answered many questions. I think Shadira may in fact have laid her body over mine once. However my reaction was not exactly cordial. Going forward an open mind would seem to be needed as well as patience.
Scbsd (guest)
10 years ago (2012-08-11)
Visited, I have one more piece of advice. Trust your gut. Disregard al the dogma and superstition, and go by what *feels* right to you. There are lots of people who will be happy to give you advice, some of it terribly misguided, but you are the one who has to live with your decisions in this.
Succubusluver69 (40 posts)
10 years ago (2012-08-08)
Hi Visited,

Thank you for your reply.

Their power is limited in our world only to
the extent that they have enough energy and
will to manifest physically. I've personally
found that both Succubi and Incubi can manifest
more strongly on a physical basis, up to physical
manifestation if their human lover regularly has
them visit. Leaving them an offering of a spiritous
beverage (a shot glass worth is fine) is definitely
appreciated by them and can help them by providing
some needed "food". Their preferred method of energy
absorption is through sexual activity of course and
through this they act as a 'conduit' with us to feed-
back energy and pleasure (as a 'closed-loop' nothing
is "lost" per se). The only 'danger' that really
exists for the human lover is of not getting enough
sleep... The majority of Succubi and Incubi who are in
long term loving relationships with us are actually
quite understanding and considerate of our needs for
proper quality sleep and make sure not to tire us
out. Think of the time you spend with Shadira as
helping her to 'store/recharge' her energy... As time
goes on she will be able to 'tap' other energy forms
as well in order to become more powerful in visiting

Don't be surprised if you find that Shadira's ability
to manifest and interact with you becomes stronger
and more pronounced as your relationship grows and
deepens. All Hollows Eve is definitely time when the
veil between the worlds is at it's thinest but that's
no reason to wait for it as regular visits will go a
long way to helping you and her connect both on an
emotional and physical basis. In time you may feel
her resting against you body to body... Let this come
at it's own pace and you will both be rewarded for
your patience. You will also find that it will be
easier and easier for the both of you to communicate
mind to mind as your relationship and time involved

It may be less difficult for you to find a poly lover
or life partner that is understanding of your being
with Shadira as your primary partner than you think.
Don't be in a rush with this... Give it time as well.

Hope all this helps,

rookdygin (24 stories) (4458 posts)
10 years ago (2012-08-08)

I'm just going to include a link to an experience of mine here on this site. In the comments section I have addressed a question posted by another member here, my response may be of interest to you considering some of the things you have recently stated... Here's the link...




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galleygal (3 stories) (150 posts)
10 years ago (2012-08-07)
What do I think Wiccans masturbate to when they are NOT doing a sex spell? No idea really, but I'm guessing it's dangerous for them to just think of a random hot chick/guy when doing it as it might bring in unintended company.

I suppose they might concentrate on imaginary partners they know for sure aren't dead? No masturbating to thoughts of Marilyn Monroe for the Wiccans...😊
Javelina (4 stories) (3749 posts)
10 years ago (2012-08-07)
[at] galleygal,
Okay, I read your post and I just have to ask... Seriously, it's simply too intriguing. If you suppose lots of non-Wiccan people do that as they masturbate, and you are the one to make this distinction. Then what, pray tell, do Wiccan do or think as they masturbate? This I must hear about. I had no idea there was a masturbation guide that went along with being Wiccan. I am not affiliated myself, but this just may sway me. Depending on the outcome of course. 😆

Jav 😁
galleygal (3 stories) (150 posts)
10 years ago (2012-08-07)
That sex spell - thinking of what your spirit lover might look like as you masturbate - sounds like the sort of thing lots of Non-Wiccan people might do as they masturbate. If I imagine Brad Pitt while I love myself, will a Brad-Pitt-like incubus come to call?

I've heard that spirit sex is phenomenal, because the spirit hasn't got the usual hang ups and insecurities that may plague living people.

I want to stress, though, that I'm talking about sex with a ghost, not an incubus/succbus. As far as I can tell, the 'bus is more like a vampire, drains energy, eventually kills you, etc.

How certain are you that your friend is not just a sexy ghost?
Locrian (guest)
10 years ago (2012-08-07)
Eventhough you may have had this experience; have you considered that it may have been just a result of deep meditation or self hypnosis? You said that you were trying a summoning spell; could it also just been your imagination? Also for future reference; you should consider not posting spells/rituals on this site; as people of many ages visit and post here.
Just a friendly suggestion and advice.
sara77 (1 stories) (40 posts)
10 years ago (2012-08-06)
Visited- You sound like a mature person and it sounds like you are on here to share your story and not to be swayed, which is fair enough.

But I think that most people will agree with me when I say that "Incubus and Succubus" stories kick in that feeling you get when you watch a horror movie:
Sitting there watching the happy little story line go along all the while knowing it will end in gore.

We all have to live by the choices we make and at the end we have no-one to blame but ourselves.

But I will say that this is one of the few Succubus/ Incubus stories that have stayed civil and I thank you for seeing peoples concerns for exactly what they are. All the very best 😊
Visited (1 stories) (9 posts)
10 years ago (2012-08-06)
I agree that it will be necessary to find a partner that is willing to share me with a succubus. However having met a few people in poly-amorous relationships, I know such people exist (hard to find as they may be). So while it will take effort to find a human willing to enter into a relationship with both me and Shadira, having a succubus who is on board with the idea eliminates the biggest obstacle. Of course one must assume that she will continue to appear. A number of other stories show that succubi do not always do so.

As for research, I did enough to realize that people's opinions on the subject (and indeed the very existence of) demons is colored by individual perspectives. Without scientific evidence, objective judgement is difficult if not impossible. Thus one only has instincts to go on and mine tell me Shadira is alright.

The concern several of you have expressed for my wellbeing is much appreciated. Demons can indeed be dangerous as many stories on this site attest to. However I do not believe Shadira is playing games with me. One must consider that she may not be malevolent and may simply be a being that is expressing her sexual desire towards me. Thus my telling her off was the equivalent of calling your girlfriend a sl-- for coming on to you. It makes sense then that Shadira found my attitude offensive, as a human would if the situation were different, and responded accordingly. In order to avoid such problems I have come to think of her not only as an unseen being, but as a powerful woman with her own feelings and desires. Since then there have been no problems.
sara77 (1 stories) (40 posts)
10 years ago (2012-08-06)
Visited, all I can say is do your research (I know I would if it was me) and when I say research I mean RESEARCH, not just what people are saying now but also what history states about them. I haven't researched Succubus, so I am not trying to be preachy, to me it just the wise thing to do.

As for this comment: But I have no significant other right now (which might be less of an issue anyway since Shadira is not monogamous)
Shadira may not be monogamous, but you might want to check if your "significant other" is, if you get one.

JS- I agree with you, I don't play silly "catch me if you can" games, not with humans... Not with demons and not since I was a teenager.
Visited (1 stories) (9 posts)
10 years ago (2012-08-05)
So, Succubsluver69 the power of a Succubus is limited in our realm? It explains a lot such as why seems to be less powerful after sexual encounters. Your blessing is much appreciated. I am interested to see what will happen on Samhain (Halloween) when the barrier between the worlds is thin.
Jesus_soldier (guest)
10 years ago (2012-08-05)
Well, I find it strange how this spirit won't reveal her true name. If you two shared a close relationship, I think her real name would be appropriate. Out of all the different kind of spirits, I dislike them the most. They are such sneaky, evil, perverted creatures.

When I saw this, it really got to me,

"So I told her off, even saying "Demon be gone!". A thought appeared in my head: "Suit yourself". The next day I felt a powerful sense of loss as if someone I loved had left me. Around this time, I ran across this site and saw that some people had had positive experiences with Succubi and that not all were bad just as not all people are bad."

She said, "Suit yourself", like she is a gift from God. I would have replied by saying "Oh! Ok!, Deuces!". Then!... Then she played with your emotions by making you feel depressed or empty, gave you the ideal to check YGS for the 'positive' experiences, and put the fish hook into you deep. She has you as bait now. This is my opinion, but your in my prayers.

JS aka Brandon 😐
Succubusluver69 (40 posts)
10 years ago (2012-08-05)
Greetings Visited,

Thank you for sharing here about your
experiences and involvement with Shadira.

You may find that as your relationship grows
with her that she is able to become more
powerful on this plane of existance. As you
have probably already discovered, Succubi and
Incubi don't 'drain' people of their lifeforce
nor do they 'steal souls'.

Just take things 'day-by-day' with Shadira and
continue to treat her with the respect and love
that she warrants and you will have a very special
lover for many, many years.

May your relationship blossom for the both of you!

Visited (1 stories) (9 posts)
10 years ago (2012-08-05)
[at] Scbsd: I have gotten past the point of questioning Shadira's existence, though her presence has been a bit faint lately. Also, it did not occur to me that allowing her to use my hands could be dangerous. My impression was that telepathic communication would be difficult for her, an idea bolstered by the fact she only did it when upset. Thanks for the advice. Frankly, I'd prefer that sort of contact anyway since complex ideas can be more easily conveyed. Plus the intimate stuff would be much more fulfilling if it were her hands and not mine.

[at] Gabriella: Happy to oblige, though to be fair Wicca is only tangential to the story.

Also there is one more thing that I did not mention. Right around when Shadira began manifesting herself to me and interacting my mom had a curse on our family broken. It had been preventing us from having successful relationships. Shadira says that act was related to her manifesting, which makes sense although my knowledge of curses and auras is limited.
Hoochler (1 stories) (263 posts)
10 years ago (2012-08-05)
Upon re-reading the original post I do see though that it was not the first words from the demon.

The point I was trying to make, which still remains, is that the spirit responded as demon when it was called a demon and treated like a demon. Exactly what order that happened in is irrelevant.

Also I noticed a typo in my first post, here is the correction...

"What that special connection..." SHOULD be "What IF that special connection..."
GabrielladeLioncourt (5 stories) (71 posts)
10 years ago (2012-08-05)
Its funny, because right before clicking your story, I thought to myself, man I wish there was a story with wicca involved here.

Hahaha and then I fell upon your story, wich is really intresting by the way. Please do post more stories if anything else happens with shadira 😊

All the best!
Scbsd (guest)
10 years ago (2012-08-05)
Also, Visited, if I may, I would like to give you some advice. In my opinion you would be a lot better off trusting this Being to communicate with you in your mind than to give her the freedom of manipulating parts of your body. I trust Pure implicitly, but I don't give her permission to move even one little finger.

I don't think she would cause any mischief, but I do believe that giving an unseen Being the ability to control your body is taking an unnecessary risk.

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