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I Miss My Father Dearly:

 

As a child from a huge family, being one of the eldest had many advantages and many disadvantages.

The advantages were staying out with friends later, being able to go out with friends to concerts, shows, and movies. (We couldn't afford that though).

The disadvantages were having to take our younger siblings with us and bring them home early, help with chores around the home, and being encouraged to get a job after school and weekends in our teen years.

The money we earned, was ours, but we'd help our parents by giving them a small amount. My father was proud and never put his hand out for anything, not even money for bread. He worked so hard from early hours until late, and when he got home he was really tired and hungry. Before eating, he would always say, 'have the children had enough to eat'? (That's the sort of father he was. Always putting my mother and all of us first, all 9 of us.) My mother always fed us early, made sure we did our homework and by the time my father got home we'd be ready to sleep.

My mother is old now and often ill. Various things burden her health constantly. I visit her from time to time and usually stay for a few days a time and help her by cooking and freezing meals and doing what I can. My other siblings do the same. They go and clean weekly and help where they can.

My parents were childhood sweethearts and after my dad died my mother never remarried or went on dates with men.

Up until this day my father is seen or his presence is felt in our family home, where they lived for over 40 odd years. I must add, since my eldest brother died, my father isn't seen or felt around the home as much.

There were no previous owners. My parents lived there from the time the house was built. There's no cemeteries or burial grounds near the home. The spirit can only be that of my father. The feeling I get is a comforting, homey feeling like he's watching over my mother and the rest of us.

Sometimes when I cook at my mother's place, I feel my father around me. My mother doesn't pick up on his presence these days. She can barely remember when we call her and we all call her daily.

I'm a lot older than my younger sister who is also a member on this site. Nearly 11 years older. She is one of the youngest and in her mid 50s, I'm one of the eldest and in my mid 60s. When my younger sister visits my mother she sees my father's shadow up and down the corridor near my mother's room.

What I don't understand, is why my sister sees my father's shadow, and I feel him around like a comforting, homey feeling. I have seen my father's spirit in the past. But these days I feel his presence.

Does anyone else have these feelings replacing sightings of spirits?

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CrimsonTopaz (1 stories) (28 posts)
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3 weeks ago (2021-05-22)
Australian Daz,
That's a really interesting way of explaining why I feel the presence and not see spirits these days.
I have you on my list of authors from Australia. I will endeavour to read as many situations as I can.
I've been caught up reading members encounters and the many replies.
Thank you for your feed back.
(I'm also having fun giving members points ⬆️ now that I am a member)
aussiedaz (18 stories) (1515 posts)
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4 weeks ago (2021-05-21)
CrimsonTopaz,

I was fortunate enough to see and talk to both of my parents after they'd crossed over my father was 1 of 15 children on he's side. I do remember my grandmother explaining how she'd organised the rank and file as like the same way you'd described in your account, big families here in Aus were once the norm unlike to day where three is a crowd, anyway, to answer your question via my own theory as to why your sister see he's shadow and you can only feel his presence?

We are spiritual beings having a physical experience inside a sub set (Matrix) to some other greater reality... Spiritual realm,heaven, Paradise or what ever floats your boat. I do suspect we enter the earth matrix with a certain level of spiritual energy probably be design? However with in the duality we are always constant as such like the laws of energy in both realms most likely on idle in the spiritual realm as we entertain the experience of being in human form.

By turning up the third eye (pineal gland with this flow of energy) we have a balance of people with limited psychic ability those who can't see blank. You were able to feel him, your sister was able to see his shadow and others have the ability to actual communicate in full transcript between the two realities.

Regards Daz
CrimsonTopaz (1 stories) (28 posts)
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1 month ago (2021-05-11)
Rex,
Arrrh yes, good old Australian sayings. 'You got to love 'em'.
(I don't hear, "throw another shrimp on the Barbi" much either). I don't live under a rock, but half the time I think all these Australian phrases are commercial.
Nothing wrong with being sceptical. If you don't see what others are seeing or sensing, it would make you a bit suspicious, no doubt.

My favourite Australian saying is one that Al uses on Home and Away, 'Flaming galah'. Lol
Rex-T (5 stories) (283 posts)
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1 month ago (2021-05-11)
Crimson,

To answer your question, while I vaguely remember talking to passed relatives, these are just your average dreams. You probably know the ones I'm talking about - where all the details are lost in the morning haze.

I've had a couple of "experiences of consequence" where I have felt somebody looking after me, but only hints of their identity.

I suppose that you could say that spiritually, I'm as blind as a bat and deaf as a post. Fortunately, Jubeele has been patiently enlightening me to be more attentive and less sceptical.

I do believe that we are all individuals and although our experiences may have similarities, at the end of the day they are our own and the difference is our individuality.

On another note, lady-glow's reference to "beyond the veil" is quite interesting. While I haven't heard this term either, it bears similarities to another aussieism, which is "beyond the pale" used to describe a behaviour which is outside the norm.

Aunty Google (and her array of dictionaries) refers to "pale" as a wooden stake, which is used in building a fence. I don't think it is a huge stretch to assume that the two phrases are related. Afterall, they both refer to behaviours or events that are perceived to occur outside our own boundaries of "normality".

Anyway, be careful, stay safe and wear a mask. 😉
CrimsonTopaz (1 stories) (28 posts)
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1 month ago (2021-05-10)
Jubilee,
Thank you for your thoughtful message.
I'm so sorry to hear you lost your father too.
It seems to be quite common that spirits appear at doorways. Mia has some tales to tell how she also saw our uncle at her bedroom door when she was young. My mother and father got a call from England the next day saying my father's brother died. It's too much of a coincidence that Mia saw him. He must have visited to tell her something. She was in shock and told mum when she finally unfroze and slept in my parents bed that night.
I think you have some fantastic explanations why my sister and I experience visits differently.
Does your husband have visits in his dreams too?
I think dreams are very powerful. Sometimes I think our loved ones communicate through them, other times I think they are memories, and sometimes it's a way for our thoughts to bring matters to the surface that need attention. I'm far from an expert on dream interpretations, so I'll leave that for the experts.
Jubeele (23 stories) (862 posts)
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1 month ago (2021-05-10)
Hi CrimsonTopaz

I'm sorry for your loss and I feel the love you have for your family. It's great that your sister and yourself are here together on YGS to share your experiences.

I wonder if your father had been initially waiting for your eldest brother, so as to guide him on his way? Maybe that's why, after your brother's passing, he doesn't seem to be as around as often now. But the "comforting, homey feeling like he's watching" shows that he still comes by to check on all of you.

Soon after my father died, I saw him at the bedroom door. As if he was there in person. My husband Rex and I were sleeping in my parents' room at the time. I sensed that he had come for a last look round, to say goodbye to us. Since then, I've seen him in my dreams, mostly memory dreams, but occasionally a vague feeling to be careful. He's warned me before when I fell off a horse, his voice in my head to: "Move!" Saving me from being kicked by the horse. It's taken me a while to realise that was probably him.

Perhaps on some level, you only sense your father's presence because you no longer need the reassurance of 'seeing' him? Or it could be the nature of your gifts - you're stronger at sensing things and your sister's ability is to be able see shadows? Or it could be the different levels of energy that we emanate. Like we're walking power sources for spirits, who 'borrow' our emotional energy to manifest in some form or other. The more energy generated, the more tangible the form. Positive energy begets positive spirits, and the same with negative energy.

Just a few of my theories, anyway. Some food for thought. Be well and take care.
CrimsonTopaz (1 stories) (28 posts)
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1 month ago (2021-05-07)
Sophie,
Thank you for your message.
My father was a good man, husband, father, and pa. It is good knowing love never dies.
Softie_thunder_thighs (10 posts)
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1 month ago (2021-05-07)
Oh, this is such a lovely story... It made me cry.
Love never ends. ❤ ❤
CrimsonTopaz (1 stories) (28 posts)
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2 months ago (2021-04-29)
Ladyglow,
I haven't heard those sayings before, but that's not to say they aren't used in Australia by the clever paranormal groups.
I looked on the internet, but only got some crazy horror drama called 'the veil', which frightened me as soon as the image appeared on my screen. 😨
I understand now, thank you.
lady-glow (13 stories) (2819 posts)
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2 months ago (2021-04-29)
Hi CT.

The veil is a way to call the division between our physical world and the mysterious one inhabited by spirits.

Have you heard the expression "beyond the veil" or "the other side of the veil"?
Perhaps this phrase is not used in Australia, I never heard it when living in Mexico.
CrimsonTopaz (1 stories) (28 posts)
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2 months ago (2021-04-29)
Ladyglow,
Thank you for your welcome.
We used to be closer when we were younger, not so much now, because everyone is busy with their own families, but we always try to make time for each other, especially for our mother.
What do you mean when you say, 'the veil" is not an obstacle to keep its members apart.' (I don't understand what that means. I'm a bit of a goose when it comes to sayings) 🤔
My father is definitely looking after our mother. He hasn't left her side. Your 100% right.
lady-glow (13 stories) (2819 posts)
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2 months ago (2021-04-29)
Welcome to YGS.

Hi Crimson.

This is such a heartwarming story. It seems like yours is a very close-knit family and "the veil" is not an obstacle to keep its members apart.
I'm sure your father enjoys his family's company and is looking after you.

Thanks for sharing.
CrimsonTopaz (1 stories) (28 posts)
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2 months ago (2021-04-28)
Rajine,
You definitely are a good person wanting to help others. I'm sure people appreciate your help. I certainly do my friend.
🤗
CrimsonTopaz (1 stories) (28 posts)
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2 months ago (2021-04-28)
MackNorton,
I've been going through some Australian members profiles and I've added a few including yours. I will start reading some encounters little by little. There's so much on this site that I thought by starting with Australia, I might be able to relate to the places members write about. (No prejudice intended)
Dreams fascinate me. I could discuss that with you for hours, and still want to know more of what you have to share. I do have a dream/spirit encounter that both my sister and I had the same time. She would have been 10 years old or so and I would have been 21 years old. I married at 19 and she had a stay over at my house. This dream still haunts me up until today. (I will submit that situation when I can)
I believe what you 100% when you say if the bond is strong we will reunite on the other side.
(I'm not ready to go yet though) 😕
Macknorton (5 stories) (636 posts)
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2 months ago (2021-04-28)
Hi CrimsonTopaz

Thanks for sharing. Personally, I've feel I've made contact with "deceased" loved ones in my sleep state, through encounters which I can't put down to being just ordinary dreams due to their vividness and the intensity of them, and how these encounters have stayed with me for decades.

I guess everybody has their own individual and unique experiences of sensing departed loved ones, for example it's very common and well documented that the appearance of certain fragrances associated with that person can signal that they are always close to you, bound by an eternal love for you.

I say this to you; rest assured that if the bond of love between two souls is real then you will be reunited on the side because love is the most powerful force that permeates this infinite Universe.

Peace,

Mack
Rajine (14 stories) (216 posts)
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2 months ago (2021-04-27)
Hi CrimsonTopaz

No I don't own this site lol, I just find it really insightful and informative also being able to interact with different people from all over the world and get their insight and advice really helped me as I hope it does for you, and if my insight helps others then I know that I've done something good,

The insomnia is not going to get sorted anytime soon but I've learned to manage.
CrimsonTopaz (1 stories) (28 posts)
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2 months ago (2021-04-27)
Rajine my friend,
I hope you are sleeping better.
You own this site. Your replies and situations saturate these threads. Members are fortunate to have such a helpful person like you participating.
Im sorry for your loss of your father my friend. 12 is such a young age to lose a parent, or anyone. No matter our age the void is great.
I was told once, 'we ache because we care, we miss them because they made a difference, and never forget, always cherish the joy they brought into our lives'.
Rajine you're very kind to reply and what you say makes sense. Our departed loved one's visit in a way that is comforting to us.
Rajine (14 stories) (216 posts)
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2 months ago (2021-04-27)
Hi CrimsonTopaz

A really touching story, especially for me as I lost my dad when I was 12, no matter how old we get losing someone, that empty feeling never goes away, but we just learn how to move forward, I believe that spirits of our loved ones are always around watching and guiding us with an unseen hand, I also feel that they will present themselves to us in a way that is comforting, each experience will differ with each person, like you feel his presence whilst your sister sees his shadow, but he's there.

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