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An Incubus Or Just A Dream?


This took place when I was 16 years old. I had gone to bed exhausted one night after having a day full of semester exams at my school. What I am about to describe is strange but true. I have no reason to lie about it.

When this first started happening, I was so confused I thought, "I must be still dreaming." But I wasn't. I had woken up to the feeling of being moved up and down on my bed slightly but steadily. I opened my eyes to see what looked like a man on top of me. I felt I was being raped but I was oddly in no pain and not afraid, just very confused. Looking closer at him, I noticed that his skin was black, not just shadowed by the night. He wasn't African American coloured, but literally jet black. I couldn't see any facial features except the whites of his eyes. I don't even know if he had hair or not.

In this 'dream' the window by my bed was open and I NEVER sleep with my window open. From the moonlight I could see the shape of his body. He was a few inches taller than me, maybe 5'6" or 5'7" and he was thin but very toned. His skin looked a little different from how human flesh looks. I couldn't see it perfectly, but judging by the moonlight it was smooth-looking but dry and yet it still had a bit of a sheen. It was something similar to how a killer whale's skin looks.

Though he looked smooth, when I felt his legs against mine, they felt a little rough. I don't know how to explain it. The skin itself was smooth one way, but rubbing the opposite way, it felt a little bumpy, similar to stroking hair the wrong way (yet he had no hair that I could feel). He had his hands on my hips and I remember his grip feeling very strong, almost as if I was stuck to his hands.

I absorbed the detail of the situation quickly. My room looked exactly the same from what I could see of it. Everything was proportional as to how it was in real life. I was wearing the same pyjama clothes that I went to sleep in (though the pants were pulled down). Everything felt real besides my lack of pain (I was a virgin at the time so I was sure that it should have hurt).

I didn't get sexually aroused by this and rather wanted him to stop, because although I wasn't in pain, it felt very strange. I didn't move though, not that I couldn't, but I just didn't feel like bringing myself to move. I felt very tired and weak, being that I was suffering mildly from an eating disorder at the time. So I didn't ask him to stop or try to shove him away, or even speak to him. In fact, I was only a part of this situation for roughly 30 seconds to a full minute before I fell back asleep or transitioned into another dream. Honestly I don't know what happened, but I stopped seeing and feeling this.

The next morning I woke up having only the same amount of memory that I did before. The only way that I could describe the feeling is similar to having been drunk the previous night and you're not really sure if the things you remember from the night before really happened or not. I assure you, I had not been drinking and I have never done drugs.

I sat up and I felt a strange soreness in my lower abs, but I was not bleeding or seriously hurt. My pants were back up where they belonged and the window was once again closed. I went to stand up and I felt a strange sticking feeling around my right hip bone. I checked and I found a piece of chewed up bubble gum right on the inside waistband of my underwear. That part I found totally strange, because it was not there the night before, it didn't get caught in the laundry, and it was red and smelled fruity. Nobody in my house chewed fruity red gum. We all chewed Winterfresh or Extra or Big Red, nothing with fruit flavouring. Except for my mom's ex-husband. He chewed Juicy Fruit, which is also a whitish yellow, not red.

I had a habit of falling asleep with gum in my mouth, but when I woke up this morning, it was still in my mouth, stuck to my back teeth, and it was a white piece. So this was not my gum that I had just found.

I have absolutely no understanding about the situation that night. I was fairly convinced it was just a dream until I woke up sore and with CHEWING GUM in my underpants, but no blood. The day I woke up from it, I was very confused. I had studied the occult and paranormal very intently (I am/was Pagan-Satanic), so I already knew that he was either an Incubus or completely a dream. I have read before that Incubus are known to hurt humans less than their female counterparts, and I remember very specifically that he was not hurting me or was not violent toward me. Eventually I just put it out of my mind. I have never had an experience like that since.

What do you think he was an Incubus or a dream?

Has anyone else ever had an experience where an Incubi's/Succubus have left behind physical evidence of their being there?

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Starrychick2 (3 posts)
12 years ago (2012-01-27)
So wait, you lost your virginity to a incubus, or demon thing? That sounds terrible. 😢 😐
Chellsie (2 posts)
12 years ago (2011-11-04)
My first hypnopomic hallucination experience is very similar to the start of this story. I felt as if I was being raped but wasn't in any pain at all, also I didn't see the figure until a little while into the episode. He was black but at the same time see through with no facial features. It was an extremely frightening experience especially since I hadnt even heard of sleep paralysis before. I haven't come across another story involving a see through black figure:/
ChildOfTheLotus (10 stories) (133 posts)
13 years ago (2011-10-12)
[at] Chevy, lol! I didn't have any hair to cut it out of. But it did suck to have to throw that set of underpants out, because the stickiness didn't go away.
Chevy (guest)
13 years ago (2011-10-10)
Intense. I would be angry about the gum thing because it would suck to have to cut it out of your hair hahaha XD but if that happened to me I'd be freaking out! Sucks you had to go threw that! D: sorry!
ChildOfTheLotus (10 stories) (133 posts)
13 years ago (2011-05-03)
[at] Spiderwood.
It was a one time thing. I have had nothing similar happen since this incident.
Spiderwood (9 posts)
13 years ago (2011-02-16)
The gum is an odd touch. As an interesting aside, the way you describe the texture of his skin is reptilian; if you've ever stroked a snake, they are silky smooth one way but very rough when you move your hand against the grain of their scales.

Was this a one-time thing? Incubi can tend to be possessive; it's actually more rare that one will just visit you and then never turn up again.
ralu4michael (28 posts)
13 years ago (2010-12-31)
you have a very interesting story... Like I've said in other posts, maybe he was your soulmate or just another guy who you loved in a previous life... It's strange you didn't feel almost anything... And I believe you didn't have any physical traces... And the bubblegum thing is like totally odd! It must've been his... Michael thinks:
"Like Ralu said, it's very interesting, especially the bubblegum part... And this things that happen to some of the people are really real and they don't leave anything behind... Like blood, although you aren't mentally a virgin anymore... And some men like it hard and some not... It depends... Maybe he was too soft, he didn't want to do something foolish, you know... Like we kind of did... Thanks God it didn't happen! I think he is your soulmate because you two seem to have that special connection... Think about it!"
bribaby21 (2 posts)
13 years ago (2010-10-19)
I was watching a show about Incubuses/succubuses. Well they said that if you run into one, the can attach themselves to you & I guess try & like take over your mind. Seen on TV that this man helped get rid of 'something' in his friends house & they succeed but a couple of nights later that he started having the same dreams like what you describe. Being in a very sexual state & feeling pleased after word. The man stated that after a while, the 'being' started getting very violent.

Just be careful 😁 ❤
mayee (2 posts)
14 years ago (2010-05-19)
I experienced something like that too. Except that the dreams are different, but I REALLY felt as if something goes inside my... You know (private part) inside and out, and it feels...good, I'm not hurt, and when I woke up in the morning there's no blood in my underwear. So I just want to know if it was an incubus too or just a dream. I felt it so many times
luckysmc (1 stories) (5 posts)
14 years ago (2010-01-02)
I am sorry that you have had to experience these strange events. I have had experience with spirits/demons and one thing that I can give you advice on is contact a paranormal team or a priest. If it is a demon; they can start off portraying themselves as friendly but in reality they are NOT your friend... Later on, their advances will become more dangerous...

One thing I have learned is that if you practice occult - you open doors that allows something to enter your home...
Succubussed (guest)
14 years ago (2009-10-30)
favorwiththerking, please click on my username to go to my profile, where you will see a link to a forum of people who experience what you have described.

I believe you.

It happens to me.
favorwiththeking (1 posts)
15 years ago (2009-10-09)
Hey everyone. I'm new here and I have had a couple of interesting experiences. I, about a year or so ago, was alone at my boyfriend's house. I had taken a shower in his mother's bathroom, as it was larger and full of girlie items and lotions, etc. Now, she is very spiritual, herself, as she has crystals and stones in various places- under her pillow, on the window sills, in boxes, and she is also into Wicca but she was raised Catholic. Anyway, all these spiritual things might have played a part. So I was alone- now I had already been smoking a little marijuana and had a drink or two. It was my day off, and this isn't any abnormal behaviour for me. What I mean is, this is a typical day and I don't really know how much of it was purely "mental" or fabricated by my sexual desire. I was a little horny and was thinking about possibly masturbating. So I planned it all out. I was really nurturing myself: oils, shaved myself in all the appropriate areas (you know just cleaning up) and had my wine, candles, aromas, etc. Got in the mood, and was naked just gently touching myskin and feeling a sense of sexuality I'm not normally accustomed to while being completely alone. Normally my sexual energy comes from an outside source of stimuli. But in the weeks surrounding this, I had been reading about spiritual sex, and other things like "channeling" the Goddess, etc. I'm very naive when it comes to certain pagan themes and folklore, etc. I want to learn though. So anyway, I began focusing on those thoughts, and wondering if it was possible to experience that unification with Spirit alone, without a willing participant to summon the "god" as I had read. So I spoke in a whispered tone and asked for someone to come. And I didn't see or "feel" anything with the 5 senses. It was another sense. I felt as though an imaginary person, no form or physical touch, was there, with an inexplicable sexual energy, touching and carressing me. It wasn't tangible, it was only sensed energetically, like waves of passion. Waves that increased and then backed off to build the tension. Basically, I felt I was receiving a lesson in sexuality. Is this totally unheard of? Or are others experienceing this? I don't think it was merely imagined. And lately, I've been have orgasms in my dreams. Almost every night.

Very explicit, I know. But I have no one to talk to about this. So many people don't believe in spiritual things.

Bottom line- The initial account where I opened myself to someone non-physical; I enjoyed it. There was no pain, fear, worry, or actual physical pressure or "touch" in the way we experience it everyday. It was as if this spirit ca 😊
shibuyapsychicresearch (7 posts)
15 years ago (2009-10-03)
maybe its only your dream because most of the time incubus comes back almost every time to...I guess harass you or anything else like that...
gcecelie (1 stories) (16 posts)
15 years ago (2009-09-21)
Maybe it was a specific type of Incubus. It doesn't match any encounter I've ever had nor does it match some other stories. Generally whatever is touching you is invisible. In my on and off experience, if I did see someone, he was glowing white or pale skin, skinny and small. Not what you described. Maybe it is something else 😕
Kugyuu (1 posts)
15 years ago (2009-09-17)
About 3 years ago in my old apartment, I had an experience similar to that except it was a woman cover in pitch black. She wasn't oily though. Even her hair was pitch black. She was touching me and got on top of me and everything when I was "paralyzed." I decided to break out of the paralyzation state (which I can seemingly do very easy now) and tried to have sex with her by getting on top of her. She ran away struggling for a bit, went under my bed, and I never saw her again. I guess I scared her off. Perhaps she wasn't ready at all. I know it seems very similar to that of a rape situation too. Maybe they don't like to be the one being dominated?
ChildOfTheLotus (10 stories) (133 posts)
15 years ago (2009-09-11)
Thanks for all of your comments, guys. It means a lot to have people believe me. I told my husband about it before, and he (also deeply involved in the occult) said that it seemed like the incubus/oily man wanted to just get his business done and was probably just hoping that I didn't wake up. He said that the demon was not trying to harm me, but needed me for sustinance. Most demons are much stronger (physically) than us, and if he wanted to harm me, he would have with ease due to my condition.

Cline1986, honestly, I have to say that I enjoyed his presence but not what he was doing. I was a lonely kid and I secretly really wanted friends from beyond our realms. My guardian "angel" is actually a demon, and at the time, I wished for more contact from my guardian to prove demons were real to me. But this one (the incubus) came along instead. I was really happy that I was face to face with a real demon (or what I thought was one) but I wished it was under different circumstances.
cline1986 (7 stories) (50 posts)
15 years ago (2009-09-11)

Don't take offence to my question, but you enjoy having an oily man on top of you? The last time I saw something that looked like the oily man it freaked me out when I found out that it was not human. Are you okay, you know you can die from having that demon/incubus (if that is what you want to call it) climb on top of you right? Or can you not see the demon? Just asking because I am concerned that's all. 😕 😐 😨
scaredtobealone (3 stories) (17 posts)
15 years ago (2009-09-10)
I'd say it was an incubus alright, id know becus I'm dealing with one right now. He comes and he goes he doesn't really stick around. I rather enjoy his company when he does come thought lol, anyways I don't think this is something you should be afraid of if he comes around again try to talk to him and set some ground rules and explain that you find his presence annoying because if you don't he'll think he can just climb on you anytime he wants to
cline1986 (7 stories) (50 posts)
15 years ago (2009-09-10)
Sorry about that comment. You were asking for help. My answer would be that it is a demon, I don't know what kind since I don't really believe in incubus/succubus, but I could be wrong about them not being real. I have had so many demon experiences I do not know what to believe anymore. And believe me all of us who have written to you believed what happened to you, I am just saying that I don't know what that thing was that was on top of you. I have had something similar happen to me except I was sleeping and when I woke up I could not move for a couple of seconds. Sorry if that did not help. I am also on this site looking for people who have had similar experiences and yours really stood out to me as one of those similar experiences.
cline1986 (7 stories) (50 posts)
15 years ago (2009-09-10)
Oh my God! I saw something like that sitting in living room and I also saw something like that in my dream two years later. When I saw it in my living room it was solid. I started talking to it not realizing that it was not human. I am crying now because your story reminded me of those two events.
Miss_Cannabis (20 posts)
15 years ago (2009-09-10)
This is very scary. But I think it may have been an incubus. My sister has had a similar expeirience. She told me when she was about 15 (shes 22 now) A large black looking figure came into her room and began to rub her inapropretly and then eventualy got on top of her. She also said she was bleeding everywhere and was in a lot of pain the next day. But I'm glad that didn't happen to you, although the gum thing was very strange. Hope to hear more stories from you.
- Miss Cannabis
TigerLily (3 stories) (145 posts)
15 years ago (2009-09-10)
I agree with Syeetaque, an 'Orang Minyak' sounds likely. There are ways to try and remove this rapist if it ever happens again.
I'm glad you weren't harmed, although it was odd you didn't bleed or feel any pain below. 😕 I'm also glad it hasn't happened again.
Keep us posted.

God Bless.
book_luver123 (227 posts)
15 years ago (2009-09-10)
Do you think it was a really weird dream. Where a strangers gum got caught on your clothes as you passed them.
ChildOfTheLotus (10 stories) (133 posts)
15 years ago (2009-09-09)
Thank you Syeetaque. That was very informative. It could have very well been what he was. The need of sex to survive seems very accurate, because he was not violent or vulgar. It was almost like he didn't know any better, or that it was just one of those things that had to be done.

Vulcan, I am fairly sure that this being had nothing to do with being of Satan. In my religion, Satan doesn't hate us. But I didn't feel any real sense of 'evil' about my incubus. He felt more like irritating company that everyone wishes would leave.
vulcan10 (5 stories) (332 posts)
15 years ago (2009-09-09)
I don't know about any ancient legend, and I find it highly unlikely that satan would follow through on his end of the bargain with a human considering he hates us and is only interested in deciet and our downfall, but that does sound like an unholy matrimony. Hopefully it was only a dream, or rather nightmare.
-_Syeetaque_- (5 stories) (109 posts)
15 years ago (2009-09-09)
Your description matches the features of malay typical incubus called 'orang minyak' or 'oily man' if translated in English.
Jet-black skin with sheen... It matches the description...
These beings are rapists, and their targets are virgins of young age (once again, matches your story)... They are actually humans who made a deal with the devil for a benefit, and need sex to survive...

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