I had a sister named Johanna who died in 2010. I have written a story about her awhile ago talking about my last encounter with her (or so I thought).
I had been dating this guy since the beginning of last year. I thought he was so sweet and amazing. Really what every girl thinks about a serious boyfriend. My family didn't really like him too much but they dealt with the fact that we were together. In the start of this year, my boyfriend dumped me. I was very sad and cried for days on end. I cringe thinking about it even now.
About a week after the breakup, I had a dream and Johanna was in it. It was very light and a sense of calm came over me in the dream. Johanna looked the same as she had before she died, but it almost felt like she matured. I remember her giving me a smile and telling me not to be sad and not to keep thinking about the guy. I couldn't speak but it's like she understood that I knew she was right. Johanna also told me that I will be relieved to no longer be in his life. I didn't know what she meant at that time. I woke up with tears in my eyes but I didn't feel sad. That dream only made me miss Johanna a lot.
A couple of months later I learned that my ex was into hard drugs and was charged for abusing women. It's almost like he took a turn for the worst. I was shocked and couldn't believe it but that's when I knew what Johanna had meant. That tells me that Johanna is in fact watching over my family and I. Just because we don't see her or feel her doesn't mean she isn't there for us:)
I'm so glad you weren't involved with him when he went haywire. When that happens it's even more hurtful than breaking up with no explanation. At one time my teen-aged son, who was not being nice in his behavior toward girls, was attracted to a really nice girl of good family. She at the time adored him. I mean seriously, she had a whopper of a crush. I told him to let her go if he didn't have it in his heart to be decent. He was angry over a previous relationship and wasn't nice to anyone he dated. I told him that is too good of a family to mess up, and I'd never forgive him if he treated her shabbily, breaking her parents trust in him. I tell this tale because perhaps your ex-boyfriend broke up with you because he knew he wasn't being a right-minded boy. A true man, one with a conscience and brought up properly, will not knowingly hurt an innocent person. Sometimes breaking up is a gift, as your sister was trying to convey.