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He Turned Into Light

 

I met JR - not Ewing - in December 1991 at the Christmas party of the company we both were working for. Since he lived and worked in northern Mexico our interactions were limited to a few times a year in which the employees from the central office in Mexico City and the ones from the satellite provincial offices got together for some special occasion or another.

JR and I had a chance to spend some time together when I went to give a three days course to the personnel of the clinical laboratory in a hospital in the city of La Paz, BCS., and JR stayed to learn the practical part of a new technology.

At the end of the day, we spent the afternoon talking about everything while seated on a bench facing the ocean.

Once the course was over, he went back to the city where he lived and I changed my plane ticket in order to spend the weekend visiting some of the attractions of the city and took a boat tour that included snorkeling and swimming with seals.

It was at this tour where I met a nice Canadian tourist that would become my pen-pal for some time and, eventually, we decided to start a semi-long distance relationship.

When JR heard about my boyfriend he would tease me whenever we got together by saying "Glo, thanks to me you got a boyfriend".

Months later I got engaged and, when JR saw the diamond on my finger he was all-over himself because, thanks to him, "Glo was going to have a husband".

One day in February 1995, someone called the company to let us know that JR had been in a car accident and died at the scene, leaving behind a pregnant wife and a little girl of about two.

Shortly after his death, I began dreaming about JR frequently. Although not always the same dream, he was invariably lurking from behind a half open door or from a next room. I knew that he wanted to tell me something but he couldn't because, within my dream, he was already dead and other times it was me who had died and he was still alive.

These dreams were unnerving and I would wake up tired and upset.

It was the end of April and I decided to talk to JR the next time I dreamt about him and I did it. When I saw him I walked to him and said "JR, I'm very sorry for what has happened to you, but I don't want to see you in my dreams again", and offered my hand to him.

We shook hands and his body began disintegrating before my eyes while radiating a beautiful white light... Brighter and brighter until the only thing left was his outline in the middle of an explosion of thousands of dazzling shards of light.

Little by little my hand became empty and a sense of peace overcame my self and I woke up rested and feeling good.

That was the last time I dreamt about JR.

Over the years, I have wonder if this dream was a visitation or if it was only a way of coping with the shock of his unexpected and untimely death, perhaps I was upset facing the uncertainty of a future one tends to take for granted but that, in reality, is as fragile as the wings of a butterfly.

To be honest, his death made me sad but didn't feel like a loss...it's hard to miss a person that hasn't been part of your daily life. Neither I think he needed of my - permission? - to move on, nor he had a final message to tell me during our last encounter.

I have come to think that, perhaps, JR only wanted to wish me a happy life.

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Melda (10 stories) (1338 posts)
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3 weeks ago (2020-11-05)
lady-glow - Conjoined twins perhaps in the mind but not in reality 🙄 Take from that what you will.

I can't understand how people actually believe the load of crap that this person spouts forth. I usually swear in my mind and not in the written word. Having done so now shows how strongly I feel about this nonsense.

Expect a down vote (I've given you a plus) and I'm expecting about five downs - fine with me.

Regards, Melda
lady-glow (13 stories) (2734 posts)
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3 weeks ago (2020-11-05)
Melda.

I hope you don't mind that I have moved my reply to this thread.

I think there are too many holes in those stories. I even wonder if the author/s do/es it on purpose so they can improvise whatever is convenient in case of scrutiny.
Of course, this is just my opinion.

On the bright side, we may have had the privilege of interacting with the only set of conjoined cousins to have lived in the history of humankind... Imagine that!

Best regards.
lady-glow (13 stories) (2734 posts)
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3 weeks ago (2020-11-01)
MrsRamsay.

Perhaps sister's D stern attitude was her way of guarding a very sensitive hearth and the result of training and professionalism, even if not evident, the situation your family was going through touched her deeply. It's possible that her presence in your dream was the last thought she had about your family before passing away.

You are right, I meant to say "fuzzy"...my wrong.

Thanks for reading my story and for your interesting input.
MrsRamsay (8 stories) (150 posts)
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4 weeks ago (2020-10-28)
By the way, when you mentioned details that were "fussy" (fuzzy?)... That's the way I describe things in my life that happen that are of a spiritual nature. I have decided, based on nothing scientific what so ever, that dreams or waking incidents or just the act of putting two and two together, connecting dots about the spiritual world and its effect on our lives are by their nature fuzzy. Someone once told me that it says in the Bible that the world beyond the veil is not supposed to be of our focus, that we're to focus on LIFE, and I just wonder if that's why the fuzziness surrounding some of these incidents or if it's just us getting older. Anyway, I started keeping a journal and a photograph file for when this kind of stuff pops up.
MrsRamsay (8 stories) (150 posts)
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4 weeks ago (2020-10-28)
Your story struck a cord with me, LG.
My late husband spent the last 3-4 months of his life at a Catholic nun-run hospice. He had brain cancer and we just could not take care of him at home any more, we had two young kids, toddlers, and his situation had become pretty bad. There were nuns assigned to their patients, and his nun was Sister Depores, I suppose not her real name, but her nun name (I'm Methodist, so don't quite get all that). Anyway, Sister D. Was older and stern, and a complete professional when it came to his care. I spent almost every day with him and got to know her just peripherally, and am certain we were discussed by her and all the nuns as we were 32 years old, a younger family going through a lot. She ministered to my husband though, not me, so was distant. As he got closer to death, she presented my two little ones with Raggedy Ann and Andy dolls that she had sewed, homemade, beautiful and truly a wonderful gesture. The kids loved them and they've been special to us for over two decades, a reminder of Sister D. And her special care.

One night over a decade ago, I had a dream that I had come out of a classroom in my old middle school and standing there by the lockers was Sister D. She didn't talk to me, I didn't see the details of her face, just knew it was her. It was really vivid and I have no idea why I dreamed of her after something like 12 years.

I pondered it and wondered if she had passed away, and if so, why would I dream about her? This seems similar to your situation. I cannot say for sure (this is the part I hesitate to write) but think I called the hospice after that dream to find out about her. It's very fuzzy, and I'm not sure why, but was I told she had passed on? I don't remember if I had THOUGHT about calling, or I actually did call... Life was very busy back then). It's a mystery, but maybe it has something to do with... When someone in life touches your soul and makes an impression.? Thanks for the story, I enjoyed it. Mrs. R.
lady-glow (13 stories) (2734 posts)
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1 month ago (2020-10-24)
Lealeigh & Valkricry.

Sharing my experience and reading all the comments, made me remember and ponder about some details that got fussy after all these years.

To begin with, I should explain what made JR say that he had helped me finding a husband:

As I have mentioned, the company's central office was located in Mexico City, they sold clinical analyzers. There was a tech team that included several engineers in charge of installing and servicing the products; and a group of biochemists that would provide training to the customers at their own workplace. I was part of the latter.
The satellite offices were ran by a small team of engineers, when necessary, they would request the help of one of the biochemists, which meant this position involved traveling frequently.
So, he needed help one day and I was sent to help him.

"Did the two of you talk about your beliefs in the afterlife?"

Not really, but he mentioned a previous marriage that ended badly (his ex tried to stab him while he was asleep).

In retrospective, I imagine he might have felt a bit "responsible" for me meeting the man that would become my husband, perhaps he considered that I was marrying too soon and was trying to protect or prevent me from taking such an important step in my life without knowing enough of the person for whom I was ready to leave everything behind.

If such was the case, I hope that wherever he is, he is aware that the last 25 years of my life have been good.
valkricry (45 stories) (3103 posts) mod
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1 month ago (2020-10-23)
Lady-glow, how bitter sweet! This particular comment of yours; "
To be honest, I think we didn't have the time to develop a real friendship," grabbed my attention. Friendship status, like love isn't always equal. It's feasible he felt much closer to you then you to he. There's really no 'time limit' to it. Perhaps he really did love you, but not in the romantic sense.
That light sounds incredible.
Lealeigh (5 stories) (502 posts)
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1 month ago (2020-10-22)
Hi Lady-glow,

I enjoyed reading this. What happened to JR is sad but this didn't leave me feeling sad because he went gracefully into the light.

You have said that you weren't close enough as friends to warrant a visitation after he was killed; but you said this:

"At the end of the day, we spent the afternoon talking about everything while seated on a bench facing the ocean."

Did the two of you talk about your beliefs in the afterlife? If you did, maybe he was just trying to confirm your beliefs by visiting you.

My dad and I have talked many times about death to the point that I am sure that, whichever one of us dies first, one of us will visit the other.

- Maria

Also:

My paternal grandmother's first two names are Maria Gloria. I was named after her.
Melda (10 stories) (1338 posts)
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1 month ago (2020-10-22)
lady-glow - Perhaps JR did visit his wife in her dreams which might have distressed her deeply. Your reaction then might caused him to realise that it was time to move on. I hope this happened and that his soul is now at peace and where it belongs.

Well met G-L-O-R-I-A! I thought this might be your name. My godmother had the same name and was also often called Glo, except by my mother who always called people by their full name.

Look after yourself LG...

Regards, Melda
lady-glow (13 stories) (2734 posts)
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1 month ago (2020-10-21)
Hello Tweed.

"Sometimes acquaintances can have a profound role in our lives without us realising it"

I suppose not all friendships/relationships are always equally balanced, perhaps the short and infrequent time JR and I spend together were enough for him to know me deeply but I didn't registered much about him. I guess his reasons for contacting me will always be a mystery.

Thanks for reading and commenting on my story.
lady-glow (13 stories) (2734 posts)
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1 month ago (2020-10-21)
Hi Miandra.

JR being in love with me is an interesting perspective though, in my opinion, not a likely one. In the first place, he was married and his family was very important to him, secondly, our personalities were too different to be compatible beyond casual interaction.
But I agree with you, I'm sure he was happy for me and because he "helped me to find a husband".

Best regards.
lady-glow (13 stories) (2734 posts)
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1 month ago (2020-10-21)
Rex-T

I'm sorry for your loss. It is very comforting to think that our loved ones stop by one more time to let us know that everything will be fine after they have taken the next step on their journey.
Do they really do it?... I don't know for sure, but the peace one feels after those "visits" is better and more effective than several sessions at the therapist's office.

Thanks for reading and commenting on my story.
lady-glow (13 stories) (2734 posts)
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1 month ago (2020-10-21)
Hi Melda.

Ha ha, yes that was a memorable trip... On so many levels!

I wonder if JR visited some one else other than me, I think his wife would have been the one letting him go. Unfortunately I didn't have a way to know if he showed himself to her... Nor if she would have been open to his efforts to contact.

Although I'm not
"five feet four
From her head to the ground"

And I would never
"Come around here
Just about midnight"

Yes, my "name is G-L-0-R-I-A
G-L-0-R-I-A
G-L-0-R-I-A"
lady-glow (13 stories) (2734 posts)
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1 month ago (2020-10-21)
Hello Jubeele.

"My impression is that he came back to help you deal with losing a friend."

To be honest, I think we didn't have the time to develop a real friendship. We would see each other for not more than five times a year and always within a work related situation. Except for those two evenings talking by the sea, we were always surrounded by coworkers.

Your words make me wonder if, on a subconscious level, I cared for him more than I was aware of and his death affected me more than what I realized it did.

Always good to hear from you.
lady-glow (13 stories) (2734 posts)
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1 month ago (2020-10-21)
Manafon.

Thanks for reading my story. I would say that all my dreams of JR felt different to my typical dreams. Although not frequently, sometimes I have dreams with my dead relatives but never before or after JR I have been aware that we were not on the same side of the veil.
These dreams are mostly family gatherings attended by the dead and the living ones, merry affairs in which I never think on the 'impossibility' of the departed ones mingling with the rest of us.

All the dreams involving JR were gloomy, in dull colours and felt heavy and slow. I really don't recall feeling any weight or warmth coming from his hand, but I will never forget that light.

You are right, swimming with seals was great, specially when a curious pup would come close to the people.
Tweed (28 stories) (2327 posts)
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1 month ago (2020-10-21)
Lady Glow, thanks for sharing this experience with us.

Sometimes acquaintances can have a profound role in our lives without us realising it. Maybe JR, from the other side, has an awareness that we here aren't privileged to. Might explain his showing up in your dreams, especially the final dream, which sounded amazing by the way. Definitely sounds like a visitation dream.
If the other dreams were visitations or not, really can't say. If they weren't you could have been sensing his presence which, coupled with grief, instigated those first few dreams.

But overall it sounds to me like he became aware of some bigger picture and wanted you to know.

Beautiful stuff!
Sleeping-with-steve (8 stories) (462 posts)
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1 month ago (2020-10-21)
Hello Lady-Glow,
When I started reading your post, I felt like JR was the man you would marry. You both talked and shared valuable time together which no doubt made both of you happy.

When you said you met a Canadian guy and he was the one, I almost felt JR's heart drop. I know he was happy for you, but, do you think he was in love with you and tried to tell you by visiting you in your dreams. 🤔
It was such a romantic but sad experience. I felt very sorry for you finding out that JR was in an accident.

My condolences to you and everyone who knew and loved JR. I hope time has helped you with the loss of JR.

Best wishes,
SWS 😘 ❤
Rex-T (5 stories) (276 posts)
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1 month ago (2020-10-21)
lady-glow,

Your experience struck a chord with me.

I will always remember being informed of my brother's passing and feeling like I was coming apart at the seams. I was descending into a dark hole and suddenly felt a warm glow envelop me and I was back in my living room thinking that my brother's suffering was now over.

The link in our experiences is wondering whether this was a visit or did some kind of coping mechanism take over? Unfortunately, no wisdom or insights on this question. I just don't know.

On another tack, when I was young, I went surfing with seals on a desert reef break in South Australia. If I had known then about the link between seals and great white sharks... Oh well, the silly things you do when you're young and immortally stupid.

Rex-T
Melda (10 stories) (1338 posts)
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1 month ago (2020-10-21)
lady-glow - In one of your previous submissions you mentioned how you met your husband. As far as I remember you decided to go awol (not on the job) and was it ever well worth it!

I believe that your dreams were more than just dreams. Perhaps JR was still hanging around in case you needed him; perhaps he wasn't quite sure whether it was time for him to leave. He obviously cared for you very much and wanted to be certain that you could cope very well without his presence. On the other hand, it is equally possible that he wanted to remain close to you for a while because he wanted to spend time with you, for his own reasons.

Once you told him that it was unsettling for you when he invaded your dreams he promptly moved on. Mission fulfilled.

Now I have an inkling where the name lady-glow comes from. I don't suppose you'll be more forthcoming with the name "Glo"? No, I thought not 😆

Regards, Melda
Jubeele (22 stories) (847 posts)
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1 month ago (2020-10-21)
lady-glow, this was bitter-sweet. I've known colleagues who died untimely and the shock of the loss invariably left holes in the workplace. In those days, there was no grief-counselling and sometimes, we weren't even allowed time off from work to attend the funeral.

My impression is that he came back to help you deal with losing a friend. He was already in the next room, in another realm. Maybe it was not so much a half-open door, but a door half-closed. He was waiting for you to accept the fleeting nature of life. You were waking up tired and upset, until you decided to let him go.

I think his turning into white light was some form of transfiguration as he moved on, much like others have described during similar encounters. It is significant that you felt a sense of peace and woke up feeling good about it.

When you mentioned: "other times it was me who had died and he was still alive", I'm reminded of the movie, "Sixth Sense", where the protagonist was the one who had died. Or a glitch in the matrix and he had gone ahead into an alternate universe, leaving the rest of us behind.

You've given me food for thought. Thanks for sharing this memory with us.
Manafon1 (5 stories) (677 posts)
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1 month ago (2020-10-21)
lady-glow--Really enjoyed reading your thought provoking account. It does seem quite likely that JR simply wanted to wish you well and to let you know you had affected his life in a positive way.

I was curious to know if the final dream you had of JR felt different from a typical dream? Did you feel his hand when you took his? Did your surroundings seem tangible like that of waking life? Were colors noticeable and vibrant? If so, I'd say JR did indeed pay you a visitation dream. Your description of the light that accompanied his disintegration certainly seems to have stuck with you--which makes sense as it must have been quite beautiful.

On another note, it must have been wild to swim with seals!

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