Caution some of this story has personal description of actual death and may offend some people.
2004, it was a fine spring morning, my daughter and I had loaded the car and were heading south for about a 2 hour drive from Sydney. My daughter was representing our district in the under 15 state basket ball championships. We were both excited about the trip, cruising on the freeway with the music playing and both of us belting out word for word. Mischievously, my daughter switched on her mobile camera and was recording whilst I drove. We were enjoying the moment feeling good about the games ahead and the town that we were driving to.
I won't mention the road we were on but what I will say it was well renowned for accidents. Coming around the corner the traffic had come to a sudden halt... About one minute prior two cars had a head on collision and it wasn't a good looking scene. I told my daughter to stay in the car whilst I go to see if I could help. As I started walking toward the scene I could see about 30 feet in front of me a person laying in the middle of the road, flat on their back. I could sense this person was in a lot of trouble. The other driver was out of her car screaming hysterically, the person lying on the road was a young lady.
As I got near, the person lying on the ground was a young lady. My first thought that went through my mind was, that this is someone's daughter. About five or six people were standing around her, the general consensus was not to touch her and wait for the ambulance to arrive. Her leg was badly broken and disfigured, something was wrong with her neck and a protruding 7 inch gash just above her left eye (not bleeding) which suggested to me that maybe her heart was not beating. (I am not a qualified doctor but I've had basic training in first aid) She was lifeless although the people standing around me were advising me not to touch her. Instinct told me to at least check for a pulse.
I got down on my knees, the road a mess from metal and debris, the smell of oil and fuel mixture was strong, a stain and odor that lasted a while on my jeans that I was wearing, (not that I minded) may be a relevant point later in my story. I put my two fingers very gently to her neck searching for a pulse, but as soon as I touched her neck I could tell it was badly broken and there was no pulse.
This poor young lady was dead. She was not wearing a seat belt and was thrown out of the car on impact, death was instant. Walking back to my car all I could think about were the parents of this young lady and how devastated they would soon feel. After hugging my daughter, as traffic was been redirected, I had an overwhelming feeling of guilt. Could I have done more? It stayed on my mind until we got to basket ball, where both of us were taken away to be counseled... An ambulance officer, whom I spoke to, reassured me there was nothing else I could do and phoned his fellow colleagues who worked on her at the accident, to find out the extenuating circumstances.
What he told me was that on record she died on arrival at the hospital. Although they knew she had died at the scene. Because of her age 18, they preformed CPR as standard procedure. I guess they were hoping for a miracle... Later that night thinking about her parents I wondered if they had known the truth, as a parent myself, I would be torturing myself about how, or if she suffered. What was she thinking etc, I decided to ring the crash investigation unit and ask them to pass this message on to her parents? I was there in the first minute of the accident, your daughter did not suffer and the people that were there were dignified about your daughter's circumstances, my heart and condolences go out to you and your family.
One night about two weeks after that, I was in my room where most of the apparitions appear to me I was sitting on my chair (ironically wearing the same jeans) when suddenly I could sense someone was there. Since I lost my dad and saw him outside my room, seeing and sensing other spirits was becoming more frequent than ever.
It had been difficult and occasionally scary, to accept what was happening with these unexpected visits. I went through a few different phases in ways of dealing with them. I went from being frightened, praying to the Lord for them to leave me alone, to being quite angry on occasions throwing pillows, punches and even swearing at them to stay away. One night I woke up and there was an apparition of a man standing in my room just staring at me, I had no idea who it was. (Confronting the fear factor I guess) I decided to get up and walk straight through him, (not a good idea) the transposition left me with some chills as I crossed his path. (Brought back a memory from another story not yet written) From this night on though, my understanding and acceptances of these spirits would forever change.
I finally realized most are lost or confused souls who are just trying to connect or get a message across to a world where they once belonged. At this time about four feet in front of me I could start to see an apparition appearing in a color formation. Soon it formed a shape of a dress it was purplish blue color and looked like something one would wear on a special occasion (I don't have the best fashion sense) I later described it to my wife as a prom dress.
I couldn't see her face or body but I knew it was the girl from the car accident. I don't know why this young lady was now standing there in front of me. My physic ability just doesn't allow me to communicate the way I would like it to. I was not frightened and subsiding all my fears, explained previously I could connect a feeling of sadness about her. I presumed this child was lost and the only thing that came to mind was to ask her to go into the light. I said this couple of times and prayed that she would, I could only see the dress for about 30 seconds, it soon disappeared and so did she.
When I was 18, I was in a serious car accident. My cousin was driving and I was in the front passenger seat. I was not wearing a seatbelt. He lost control of the car and hit a solid tree head on at about 45 to 50 mph. About 10 feet away from the tree something happened which had nothing to do with my physic ability.
A white flash of light surrounded most of the car that I could see, and then everything went into slow motion. It would have only been a split second in reality, but to me it was like 5 long seconds. It gave me enough time to embrace for impact I could see the tree coming and my timing on collision had to be perfect. The collision had some tremendous force had to be perhaps (800pound psi of pressure) my arms had to sustain during impact (remember no seat belt) I should have been thrown out of the car and probably seriously hurt or killed.
I understand the physics of adrenalin, may explain part of it. But I believe this was something else. I have no doubt a higher force saved my life on that night, as I walked away with just a couple of minor injuries. I didn't even go to hospital. In respect for whoever saved my life? And that poor young lady that's death would have been prevented had she worn a seat belt.
I finish this story with this strongly intended advice. Please wear your seat belt at all times. Tell your friends my story and pass this message on. I welcome your thoughts and please excuse me if my description of the dress is not what expected, but it was how I described it to my wife at the time.